Apparently b/c I can't stand self-help books my life has become somewhat of a SOAP OPERA

So my BF "M" recently started reading this book called The Secret... and she and many of my other friends SWEAR that it will change your life. Now being the person I am I ABSOLUTELY positively HATE 'self-help' or advice books of ANY kind!!! I know in some ways it is kind of ignorant, but I kinda feel like I can figure life out on my own and i don't really need some 'expert' who probably really isn't an expert at all share secrets with me about how to live my life. I feel like I am doing a pretty damn good job of it on my own. Nevertheless, I have listened to some of the 'secrets' M has learned from this book and sometimes when she tells me them I sort of laugh to myself and think... Isn't that just basic instinct?... well for me at least. For example, one of the secrets is to always think positive, the universe doesn't understand negatives. AKA if you are always thinking you are going to walk to the mailbox and get a bill you will... or if you are always thinking NO MORE BILLS... you will get bills. And if you think positively (for example in my life If I think I am gonna sell a lot today... you will) This actually proved to be true when I actively thought positively and wanted to really sell I did, yet I already practiced this.... and I wonder seriously do you need a book to tell you to think positively?!?! Shouldn't that just be something you are wired to do?! Apparently this isn't everyone. That sort of baffles me a little, but people really fascinate me how differently we are all wired to think and react.
Another 'self-help' book which i VEHEMENTLY boycotted was the He's Just Not That Into You book by that asshole guy who wanted to 'advise' all the desperate women of the world. PLEASE. I have done absolutely fine in relationships without that stupid book and most girls who have read it, are seriously screwed up from it and are WAY too afraid to act or be themselves around guys specifically because of that stupid book. ANNOYING.
I guess you could really chalk my intolerance for 'self-help' or 'self-improvement' books could be chalked up to my good old fashioned Irish blood which coarses with horrific stubbornness and the idea that everything we think or believe is absolutely TRUE... which I will admit. I am very much like this, I hate to recieve advice... yet I LOVE TO GIVE IT, and you might as well be talking to a mirror when trying to give some to me, because I will ALWAYS and I MEAN ALWAYS do whatever I want, even if it means learning things the hard way. Which is probably why my life is somewhat like a soap opera, but i am happy in my soap opera life, and no matter what any stupid self-help books say.... It really is a perfect way to live....
****XOXO*******
Kati